DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

Those who are still single may learn something from here....
Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve their

marriage.....

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?


During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question.
She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, It

depends. Is that your husband?"
In all seriousness, she answered, "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing
on your mind.


Here's the answer:
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with
your spouse.
You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their

idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. Infarct, it was a completely
natural and spontaneous experience.

You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love...


People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."

Think about the imagery of that expression.

It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then
something came along and happened TO YOU.


Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades.

It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship..

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all).


Touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's
idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think
about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the

initial stage when you were in love; and a much duller or even angry
subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the
right person?"

And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once

had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.

This is when marriages breakdown.
People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their
marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.. Infidelity is the

most obvious.

But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or
abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage.
It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.


You could.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few
years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON;


IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience.

It'll NEVER just happen to you.

You can't "find" LASTING love.


You have to "make" it day in and day out.

That's why we have the expression "the labor of love", because it takes

time, effort, and energy.

And most importantly, it takes WISDOM.


You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work, make no mistake
about it.
Love is NOT a mystery.

There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to
succeed with your marriage.


Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there
are also laws for relationships.

Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger,
certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger.


It's a direct cause and effect.

If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. ..You can
"make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision".... not just a feeling.

Remember this always:
"God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you
let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go."

the picture say it all...

Meeting you was fate
Becoming your friend was a choice
But falling for you I had no control over

The quickest way to receive love is to give
the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly
and the best way to keep love is to give it wings

The greatest pain that comes from love is loving someone you can never have

day after day, night after night... i still cant find a way to get her out of my head... i really wish to tell her how much i miss her and how much i love her...

What I need to do

busy busy busy
work work work
travel travel travel
tired tired tired
troubles troubles troubles

All sorts of things is in my mind right now...
I don't even have time to relax myself and find solutions to it
But I am looking forward to this weekend when I work in Ipoh
Hope she's free enough to meet me

Thoughts in my mind

Useless me
I can't buy her food when she's hungry
I can't drive her to college when her friend absent fr class
I can't lend her my shoulder when she's sad
I can't bring her to see dr when she's not feeling well
How many "I can't" I can write at here?
But others are there do the things "I can't"
All I can do is just text text text and text..
Who am I?
What am I?
What can I do?
Where do I stand in her heart?

How I wish I can stop the time...
So I can stop the time on 13th & 14th Feb 2009...
Short but happy...
Worth the wait...
Worth everything..
How I wish for the day to come again...
When will it be?
How long do I need to wait?
Anyhow, I am looking forward to that day when we will meet again...

All I want is just to spend the precious time together and share the burden she's carrying.. coz she's the best thing that ever happened to me

Distance between 2 hearts is not an obsticle - rather a great reminder of just how strong TRUE LOVE can be

Why guys like girls?

Here is one of the best reason why guys like girls:

The way their tears make you want to change the world so that it doesn't hurt her anymore..... Yet regardless if you love them, hate them, wish they would die or know that you would die without them ... it matters not. Because once in your life, whatever they were to the world they become everything to you. When you look them in the eyes, traveling to the depths of their soul and you say a million things without trace of a sound, you know that your own life is inevitable consumed within the rhythmic beatings of her very heart. We love them for a million reasons, No paper would do it justice. It is a thing not of the mind but of the heart. A feeling. Only felt.

My First Day at Work

16th March 2009 - I almost wake up late on my first day to work. I actually set my alarm to ring at 7am BUT I accidentally set to 7pm. I am lucky enough to wake up on my own at 715am. If not, I guess I’ll be eating cuttle fish again right now.

What I did today was just filling the forms, reading the company’s & insurance’s policy and attend the medical check up at the panel clinic for my company. Most of my new colleagues are quite nice and friendly especially my Project Manager. Hope that I can learn a lot from him from time to time.

The time crawled slowly till 5pm and I AM GOING BACK! But not home. I have to attend my ID class at Equator Academy of Art at 730pm till 930pm. An exhausting day for me but I like it coz I know I am not jobless anymore and I am grateful for that.

I just can't get HER out of my head. I am thinking of her all day long. Wondering how is she and what is she doing? But I am happy that she sent me message this morning to wish me a good day =)

Unpunished Crime

12^th March 2009 - Soon after my interior design class, I called Poay with my phone when I heard Fay shouted “my bag was snatched!!!”. I hurried to the scene then Poay told me that there’s nothing he can do to help Fay coz the snatch thief rode his motorcycle very fast which is impossible to chase. This happened around 940pm at McCallister Road, Penang. Her handbag was snatched together with her precious phone and ROXY card, but luckily she escaped with just a minor bruise on her arm. Sigh.. The number of crime in our country has risen dramatically soon after the economic crisis. Careful

Personality Test (quite accurate)

Extracted this personality test from my lovely cousin's blog..and this is my result!

Your view on yourself:

Other people find you very interesting, but you are really hiding your true self. Your friends love you because you are a good listener. They'll probably still love you if you learn to be yourself with them.

The type of girlfriend/boyfriend you are looking for:

You are a true romantic. When you are in love, you will do anything and everything to keep your love true.

Your readiness to commit to a relationship:

You are ready to commit as soon as you meet the right person. And you believe you will pretty much know as soon as you might that person.

The seriousness of your love:

Your have very sensible tactics when approaching the opposite sex. In many ways people find your straightforwardness attractive, so you will find yourself with plenty of dates.

Your views on education

Education is very important in life. You want to study hard and learn as much as you can.

The right job for you:

You have plenty of dream jobs but have little chance of doing any of them if you don't focus on something in particular. You need to choose something and go for it to be happy and achieve success.

How do you view success:

You are afraid of failure and scared to have a go at the career you would like to have in case you don't succeed. Don't give up when you haven't yet even started! Be courageous.

What are you most afraid of:

You are afraid of having no one to rely on in times of trouble. You don't ever want to be unable to take care of yourself. Independence is important to you.

Who is your true self:

You are mature, reasonable, honest and give good advice. People ask for your comments on all sorts of different issues. Sometimes you might find yourself in a dilemma when trapped with a problem, which your heart rather than your head needs to solve.

Not so Happy after all..

I slept late last night, but I woke up early as I was awakened by my phone at 9am. The phone call I answered was the phone call I've been waiting for quite some time. "I GOT THE JOB!". That was a very good news for me!

I was so excited abt it till I cant sleep back although I am tired and sleepy. I was told to report to work on 16th March 2009. It's the end of my misery, jobless, low self-esteem life.

The first person I can think of when I got the good news, was HER. I want HER to be the first one to know abt this good news. But I don't think that is a whole good news for HER as the job I got is base in Penang although the company do have subsidiary companies in KL. It's still up to the boss to decide where am I going...





Never frown even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile :)